Coping with Borderline Personality Disorder
For a person who suffers with BPD, the idea of coping with the disorder on a daily basis can seem like an impossible task. After experiencing a number of inaccurate diagnoses, several ineffective treatment approaches, and cycling through well intended– but less than well informed mental health providers, it’s not hard to see why.
It may also sound shallow to say that there is hope for resolving the many problems BPD causes or hope for the restoration of deeply fractured personal relationships. But recovery is possible. With an accurate diagnosis, a well thought out treatment plan and a well-trained therapist, many people do get better and are able to successfully develop a life worth living.
For families and loved ones of a person with BPD, the concept of coping with the chaos that invades their lives is equally implausible. But the fact is that many people with BPD can, and do, get better. And many family members, and loved ones of people who have BPD can, and do, find the elusive light at the end of the dark tunnel they feel lost in.
People with BPD experience a broad range of symptoms– so becoming as educated as possible about BPD is essential. When members of a person’s social network achieve a high level of understanding, they can be more effective and helpful in the recovery process of their loved one suffering from BPD.
Keep in mind that it is not anyone’s fault that she or he has borderline personality disorder. The severity of symptoms they experience is out of their control. But you are in control of the way you react and respond to emotional outbursts and negative behaviors. Validation of their experiences and a display of understanding for the way they are feeling can help to alleviate escalating tensions.
It is also important to bear in mind that your loved one is ultimately responsible for their behavior and life. While a strong support system is great, it is less effective if the person with BPD is unwilling to make the effort recovery requires. If you do find yourself in a situation such as this do not withdraw. Rather, try to stay involved while gently guiding the situation towards a more positive outcome.
Finally, your loved one’s road to recovery is going to be a bumpy one, with several detours and wrong turns along the way, so it’s critical that you also take care of yourself, ensuring you are in the best frame of mind to be of help.