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Rated 4.41 out of 5 based on 76 customer ratings
(76 customer reviews)

$26.95

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This video series was created for individuals and their loved ones. It explains BPD in ways that are clear and easy to understand.
When you rent these videos they’re available for 10 days and can be streamed online on any computer or compatible device.Also available in DVD format.

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Marsha Linehan, PhD - If Only We Had Known: A Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder.

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If Only We Had KNown: A Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder video series:
This series documents four families living with Borderline Personality Disorder. Each of the five videos focuses on a critical aspect of BPD: understanding what BPD is; what causes it; how it is diagnosed; how it is treated; and how people can learn to cope with BPD and rebuild fractured relationships. Leading BPD experts and advocates provide the most recent insights and explanations about Borderline Personality Disorder.

If Only We Had Known: A Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder was funded by grant from the National Institute of Mental Health. A randomized controlled trial conducted with family members, under the direction of NEA-BPD, showed that people who viewed the five videos increased their knowledge about BPD, felt more empowered, and felt less emotional burden.

Experts In This Series.
These experiences are informed by insights and commentary from leading experts in the field including:

Marsha Linehan, PhD – developer of Dialectical Behavior Therapy.
John Gunderson, MD – founder of the McLean Hospital Borderline Personality Disorder Center.
Peter Fonagy, PhD – co-developer of Mentalization-Based Treatment.
Jon G. Allen, PhD – co-author of Mentalizing in Clinical Practice.
Antonia New, MD – researcher focusing on the neurobiology of borderline personality disorder.
Frank Yeomans, MD – co-developer of Transference-Focused Psychotherapy.
Mary Zanarini, EdD – professor, Harvard Medical School and McLean Hospital.
Perry Hoffman, PhD and Alan Fruzzetti, PhD – co-developers of the NEA-BPD Family Connections.
Alec Miller, PsyD – director of the Adolescent Depression and Suicide Program, at Montefiore Medical Center.

 


Customer Reviews

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  1. Rated 5 out of 5
    Absolutely wonderful.

    Marsha Linehan, PhD – Developer of Dialectical Behavior Therapy

    Absolutely wonderful. The people in these videos explain what it’s like to have Borderline Personality Disorder better than I ever could.

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  2. Rated 5 out of 5
    Great for me

    Dora

    This was great for me. It had a lot of information that you can’t find out there unless you are willing to read extensively. Dr. Fruzzetti was great.

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  3. Rated 5 out of 5
    Worth a thousand words

    Sean

    The more you see the more you learn. It’s really true – “a picture is worth a thousand words”.

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  4. Rated 5 out of 5
    Excellent

    Mom of son

    This was excellent! Thank you for making it!

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  5. Rated 5 out of 5
    I learned that I wasn't alone

    Spouse

    Because I learned more about others in this situation (both those with BPD and family members), I learned that I wasn’t alone, as well as a better understanding of what I might expect to experience. That helped me to be more understanding, I changed my reactions and interactions because of what I learned, which reduced my BPD spouse’s stress and anxieties. It’s not the relationship that I had envisioned when we got married, but it is better today than it was. I have fewer “expectations” and have become much more flexible in our relationship and in life. I am at peace with her and accept her for who she is.

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  6. Rated 5 out of 5
    Need is present, prevalent, pervasive.

    Donna, BPD parent advocate

    As a parent, and a person involved in BPD parent programs, I know the need for videos such as these is present, prevalent, pervasive.

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  7. Rated 5 out of 5
    Showed them to the rest of our family

    Larry

    These programs saved us from having to answer and explain so many things about BPD to the rest of our family.

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  8. Rated 5 out of 5
    I could better relate to my parent

    Child of borderline parent

    The validation I felt watching the videos was important. As a child of a borderline parent I needed validation and outside explanations to understand the events happening were not my fault or caused by me. Then I could better understand, and relate to my parent. Understanding more about her disorder allowed me to better cope with my Mother’s triggered outbursts compassionately.

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  9. Rated 5 out of 5
    Thought it was great!

    Nancy McCray – Librarian

    I saw the video series and thought it was great! It certainly showed nice families of different religions and races with children or spouses with problems that weren’t too scary at first. The mood stayed calm. That puts viewers at ease. Each vignette at the beginning singled out one criteria to explain. Dr. Linehan’s theories really brought a good focus. Having parent and child describe situations was very helpful. The whole thought of self-mutilation or harm sends me into worrisome mode but when it was explained that the patient feels better it makes some sense. It is obvious that those individuals have had lots of help coping with their issues. Dr. Fruzzetti at the end summed the main criteria up in an easy to remember order. I was impressed with the fine technical quality of filming, sound, captions, etc.

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  10. Rated 5 out of 5
    Worth the money.

    Laura

    I am willing to do anything to help my daughter. I think these videos helped. Worth the money.

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  11. Rated 5 out of 5
    It explained what’s going on in my brain

    Jane

    Good to know this stuff.

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  12. Rated 5 out of 5
    Great they're rentals

    Roy from CA

    It’s great that these videos are available for rentals. Most other video programs about BPD that have experts in them are very expensive DVDs.

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  13. Rated 5 out of 5
    Shared the rentals

    Emily

    Shared the rentals with my whole family. It showed my siblings what’s going on with me.

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  14. Rated 5 out of 5
    This has shortened our learning curve

    Nicolas and Dolores

    Our daughter was just diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. We had no idea what that was. Her therapist gave my husband and I these programs to watch. They were an excellent way for us to find out about BPD, and then we came to your website which had even more helpful information about other organizations. This has shortened our learning curve and hopefully now we can be of some help to our daughter.

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  15. Rated 5 out of 5

    Randy

    I liked the part that explains that this is a biological illness.

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  16. Rated 5 out of 5
    More information for treatment

    Isla- Cardiff, Wales

    The overview of treatments was a starting point for me to try to make treatment decisions for my daughter. It seems to me that DBT or MBT is the most specific to borderline personality disorder. I understood DBT a little better but I would be happy to find either of those therapies in my area.

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  17. Rated 5 out of 5
    Shared with family in India

    Anaya

    It’s wonderful that I was able to share these videos with my family in India. They had no idea what Borderline Personality Disorder was – and now they seem to understand me better.

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  18. Rated 5 out of 5
    Been so hard for so long

    My Sister

    I feel that now I might be able to talk to my sister without loosing my temper and I can try harder to understand what she’s going through. Maybe. It’s been so hard for so long and she was always the “child of focus” in our family everything was always about her. It was a long time before anyone said she had Borderline Personality Disorder. We’re both adults now and I mostly just try to stay away from her.

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  19. Rated 5 out of 5
    Would love to get to somewhat normal.

    Ellen

    All the families in the videos seem to be at a good place. It’s important to me to see that they’d gone through some serious struggles and seem have arrived at a place where life was (if not ideal) at least somewhat normal. Right now we’re still struggling would love to get to somewhat normal.

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  20. Rated 5 out of 5
    Possibilities of a better future

    Grace

    It’s always helpful to know that other people are experiencing the same feelings that you’re feeling. This has opened my mind to the possibilities of a better future.

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  21. Rated 5 out of 5
    Not alone

    kelly

    These programs gave me that “you are not alone” feeling.

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  22. Rated 5 out of 5
    Realized she's not acting out

    Janice

    It was good to see that the behaviors we see in our daughter are actually symptoms of the illness- and that she’s not just acting out.

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  23. Rated 5 out of 5
    I recommend viewing these programs

    Maria A., LMHC

    This is a great resource. I recommend viewing these programs to people who have been diagnosed with BPD and, more importantly, to their families.

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  24. Rated 5 out of 5
    These videos will be of real and invaluable help to many, many people.

    Steve Tuber, PhD – City University of New York

    The video is beautifully done and very powerful. The overall effect of the expert’s commentary interwoven with the patient’s was even more powerful. You’re producing an enormously valuable ‘document’, one that I think will be of real and invaluable help to many, many people.

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  25. Rated 5 out of 5
    This is an important source of information

    Perry Hoffman, PhD – President, NEABPD

    If you are a family member who has a loved one diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, this is an important source of information for you. Open and honest discussions of BPD by individuals and families who have struggled with the disorder and survived offer unique perspectives on the disorder. Leading BPD researchers and clinicians share their expertise to complement the personal journeys

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  26. Rated 5 out of 5
    Everyone was riveted to the videos

    Carl Dunn – BPD Peer Support Expert – #BPDchat

    There was a terrific response; everyone was riveted to the videos. I believe every class member felt changed for the better after watching the whole series. I think it helped accelerate the transformation in understanding and coping

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  27. Rated 5 out of 5
    We’re going to rent these videos again

    Ann W

    We’re going to rent these videos again to try to educate other family members as to the nature of this illness.

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  28. Rated 5 out of 5
    Long overdue.

    A mother and father

    If only we had something like this when she was in high school, or when she was in her 20s, or 30s.

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  29. Rated 5 out of 5
    Series is a wonderful complement.

    Thomas, Family Connections

    I am a family member who teaches a 12-week talking course. This video series is a wonderful complement, particularly for people with different learning styles.

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  30. Rated 5 out of 5
    Information in a comfortable, private format.

    Barbara S, PsyD

    A wonderful educational tool that offers information in a comfortable, private format. My clients have been very responsive to the information they received by watching the series.

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  31. Rated 5 out of 5
    Original, absorbing, highly instructive

    John Gunderson, MD- Harvard Medical School, McLean Hospital

    An original, absorbing, highly instructive, and clinically rich series of DVDs about Borderline Personality Disorder. By vividly capturing the pain of having this disorder and the pain it compels in those who love them, this series creates a sympathetic portrait of a condition that too often generates hostility. It will prove extraordinarily useful for training, for borderline patients themselves, and most particularly for their families.

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  32. Rated 5 out of 5
    The programs help families

    Brian A. Palmer, MD – Mayo Clinic

    This series documents the challenging road traveled by families impacted by Borderline Personality Disorder. The programs help families find the hope that comes with skill and knowledge by integrating expert comments and the “real life” wisdom of families who have learned to balance limits and validation.

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  33. Rated 5 out of 5
    Liked what the experts had to say

    Confused in MT

    There seems to be a lack of this type of reliable information available about Borderline Personality Disorder. It’s confusing. I never know if what I’m reading is true. Seeing BPD therapists like Marsha Linehan talking in these videos made me realize that what I was seeing was accurate info. This series was very beneficial to me and I liked what the professionals had to say.

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  34. Rated 5 out of 5
    New to BPD

    Sammy C

    This actually gave me a better understanding of my disorder.

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  35. Rated 5 out of 5
    Wish I had seen this earlier.

    Lucas from New Jersey

    If I had found these videos before, I might have had a better understanding of my illness I could have tried to explain to my family.

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  36. Rated 5 out of 5
    Learning/hearing and getting support

    Mercedes Q, PhD

    I know from my work with families that learning/hearing and getting support from families that live with this disorder is helpful. These videos can be a viable resource for them.

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  37. Rated 5 out of 5
    Understanding her struggles

    A partner from Ohio

    I still cannot say totally, “I understand how you feel,” but I think I have a much better handle on what is going on and the struggles she is dealing with after watching this. That should be good for both of us.

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  38. Rated 5 out of 5
    Best explanation of the disorder

    Jim and Diane Hall – BPD Family Advocates

    Your video series is so valuable for so many venues – our families here in Houston think they’re the best explanation of the disorder they have been exposed to. They said – real people, beautifully filmed and explained, and professionally supported’. The best teaching tools are used – sight, sound, and people they can relate to and actually feel like they know as the series concludes. The human element and key points reinforce the fact that this is real disorder and much can be done to help those afflicted and their families!

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  39. Rated 5 out of 5
    Much Needed

    William, LPC

    Much needed hope and inspiration for families.

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  40. Rated 5 out of 5
    If we had seen these films before

    Linda

    If we had seen these films before maybe it could have helped reduce stigma, confusion and even, separation of certain family members from me and my parents.

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  41. Rated 5 out of 5
    Excellent approach

    Sophia C – PhD

    This series has an excellent approach i.e. – understanding the disorder, then learning coping skills, and finally showing a person that they are not alone in their experiences and that there can be emotional support. It is a perfect way for me to introduce my patient’s families to the way this disorder can impact a family and how they can help their loved during the therapy process.

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  42. Rated 5 out of 5
    I care about my daughter

    Fran

    My watching the videos helped my daughter to understand that I care about her disease and want to help her get better. It opened up more communication about the stigma of mental health and also an opportunity to share with others about borderline personality disorder. She sees evidence that I am interested in helping her to get better. I was interested and tried to help her previously however I think that the videos were a key part of her understanding my desire to help her get better.

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  43. Rated 5 out of 5
    Maybe there’s hope

    Hopeful

    Seeing this illness can be treated and that the person can feel better means there is hope.

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  44. Rated 5 out of 5
    My view of BPD has changed

    Tasha

    After viewing the videos I can say that my view of BPD has changed and I am far more empathetic with our daughter as well as other family that are judgmental and harsh with her.

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  45. Rated 5 out of 5
    Replayed parts over again.

    Elaina R

    I like the fact that I had 10 days to watch the videos. I could go back and replay parts over again.

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  46. Rated 5 out of 5
    Best way to get someone started who has no previous information

    Jim Payne, BPD Family Advocate

    These films are probably the best way to get someone started who has no previous information about BPD. They can give people some context to navigate the confusion and miscommunication that comes with this disorder. Help them move on a path forward.

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  47. Rated 5 out of 5
    The experts explained many confusing things

    Liam in North Dakota

    The fact that there were professionals in these videos was great. Many of us are desperate for help- but are unable to get professional help. We can’t find a therapist/clinic near us. That just doesn’t exist in all geographical areas. The people in the videos all seem to be near a clinic or something. Watching this was OK but we need more help than just this. It was a starting point though.
    The people in these videos showed different strategies that they have successfully used deal with BPD and the experts explained many confusing things about the disorder.

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